Category: Teen Topics
There are times when I wish I didn't care what others thought of me. I don't seem like one who would, but I do often struggle with the concept of simply being someone who doesn't care. I guess that's one of the problems with being a teenager.
I totally understand where you are coming from. I have always tried to please everyone, and always cared what people thought. I wish that I couldnt be that way, but I swear its a gene in my body or something. It can become very frusterating as specially in peer pressure situations.
i know it can be hard at times.
lol i never ever care what someone things of me! if they dont like me.... fuck em'
I know what you mean. I wish the same for me.
Troy
A study in Scotland found that most teenagers particularly girls are miserable..both with themselves and their lives..something has to be done soon to reverse that trend...
I don' give a flyin' flip what others thinka me!!! I'll wear baggy clothes if I want; I'm not going to show my "figure" off if guys aren't even gonna pay attention to me, so why bother wearing something I hate if no one's gonna say nothin'? That's my motto! And I'll be a tomboy if I want! And,... I don't care if anyone doesn't like the fact that I'm a Christian, but I honestly try not to be judgmental, because I do not want to push people away. I always pray that God will help me to be a loving, grace-giving, non-judgmental Christian. I don't give in to peer pressure; so if someone's sayin' have sex! I'll be like um no! I won't have sex or do drugs or anything just to please someone; if they try to get you to do that, they're not your friends anyway! So no I don't care what people think of me, although I do wonder if everyone says I'm so pretty, then why don't guys like me? So it's because I'm blind eh? Yeah, I've been dumped and denied because I'm blind, so I guess that is my one weak spot.
Well it depends. I DO care about what other people think, except about what they think about the way I look like. If someone says "You're fat", then I don't give a fuck at all. Some people like me for who I am and if some people don't, well, it doesn't bother me at all. And you really can't please everyone. You can please some people, but what you do to please them can be a reason for others to criticize you again. I tried to please everyone once but I already gave up on that a long time ago. It's no use to try it - it never works and it never will.
Are all of you who say you don't care what others think of you sure that you're being completely honest with yourselves? (Sorry, messy sentence, I know). It seems to me that most people actually *do* care what others think of them, or at least most definitely act as if they did. I'll readily admit that I care what others think of me to an entirely unhealthy extent.
Well since I am a nonconformist (just like everyone else) I don't care what people think, i mean when people say that wasn't funny i just say i dont care heheh lol im so cool.
JaMeS
James you are very cool hehehehe!
I definitely do care what others think, but it honestly depends on the person. If someone who hates me says what he thinks about me - I don't even listen to him. Also I can't stand people who say what they think of me and they don't even know me.
Lol I'm the complete oppisite. I always cared what ppl thought of me as a teenager but now I don't. I'm proud of who I am, what I do. I don't regret anything I do. .. I have learnt (it took a lot of work) to become very honest with people. No-one treats me like dirt and gets away with it no more. it use to be like that. anyway half the reason I keep a Livejournal is cos I like to share my life with others and if they have a problem with what they read and judge me, it's their problem. but course in saying that I do care greatly for my friends and family and always aim to be there for them, - just like I am comfortted knowing they're there in return. It's so not one-sided any more how it use to be.
hmm, well at my school people sometimes things wrong stuff. i generally don't care. But I hate when people does not even know me and coments about me, I think I have had this problem in the zone too, but whatever... well if someone hates me, then i don't even look at them so yah... jus for making one more post lol.
i dont care what people think as long as i'm not bothering anyone thinking that your doing the right thing may let you feel that you do not have to care about what others have to say right? cause its good its all up to you
Well lou you're aweosme!!!
Hey, it has been extremely interesting reading all of these replies, as I guess it happens to a lot of people, and not just me. I think that I don't really care about what my family and people who don't like or know me think, but I still do care about what my friends think about me because, well yeah, they're important to me. So is my family, but I don't have any doubt in my mind that they'll always be there for me, and I've embarrassed myself so much around them that it doesn't matter anymore..lol.
I care about what I think of myself; however, aside from that, I could pretty much care less. =D
However, that doesn't mean that I've never cared; at one time, I wanted to be poplar with every fiber of my being, and if that meant subjecting myself to what other people thought then fine. Thankfully, I realized that trying to be something that I wasn't could only end badly.
I care what my friends think of me, but not the strange people. And, well, my parents, at some point - yeah, I sometimes do care what they think, lol.
I care!!! I care so much!!! I care so much that at times, I get myself in a lot of trouble just trying to please them all. Them being the people closely affecting my life. For example, I am very sad that I don't live with my family anymore and being disowned by them is the pits sometimes. But I still talk to my older sister and whenever she asks me if she could borrow money, use my credit card, buy her something, let her download songs on my school computer, ... I always do it cuz I'm so scared that she will start talking shit about me. My friends say that she probably is anyways and why should I care. But I really do. Also, when I was in high school, I let my V.I. teacher and aide influence me in choosing what I should study and how I should be like in college and it's making me so unhappy right now. I am desperately in need of help cuz I can't say no to those around me. Luckily, I choose my friends carefully and they all think very well of me and we're all very tight!!! But when it comes to my "not loving" family or advisors in school, I really do care. It sucks!!!
Always and 4eva: Sexy
I did that once: trying to please all of them. But now that I know that it never works, I concentrate on those who are important to me.
I do care what people think of me that I don't know because I like to make a good first impression but once I get to know someone I couldn't care less what they think.
yes, i care, i care what i look like, i dont care however if they think i'm funny or whatever, but at my school, if you dont look good you have no friends, and friends matter a lot to me, so yes, yes, i care, i can tell people no though, and i can advocate, (too well) but anyway... ya that's it
Yep, I care what people think of me way too much! People who don't are so lucky. But sometimes it just seems like I want everyone in the world to like me, which could never work out anyway. I'm really trying to stop thinking this way though, it's much more harmful than helpful.
wow, talk about a topic resurrected. anyway no. I don't give a fuck. seriously. if i did, then my family and many other people wouldn't see me as the worst, that's where my old name on here came from. i can't even think of doing something just to please someone. i really am not able to say something i don't think and pretend of being something i'm not. i don't care if others like me or not, don't care of making a good impression, don't care if they like or not the way i look like. people tend to judge too often and say you are worthless crap because you are not like them, if i cared of it all then i wouldn't survive. and the fact that i care what my friends think of me, well, if they are my friends it means they like me the way i am and accept me with my good and bad qualities, saying what they think even if it's bad yes, but accepting me anyway. if they are friends only as long as i look good and don't do anything they wouldn't do, then i see it as a very vulnerable friendship. i mean, i would do anything for my friends, i mean really anything, but not sure i would do anything for someone who is my friend just because i look good. so, if people accept me it's ok, if they don't like me i don't care. let them judge me as much as they want if they have nothing better to do.
the one and only worst!
I care! I care so much about wat eople think of me, too. I always want to please my friends, and sometimes I'm stuck in some situation where I have to do something for one or another, and I feel really bad and don't know what to do. It never works. I wish I didn't care that much, but it's my personality, what can I do about it.
I honestly don't give a crap. If they don't like me for any reason, or judge me for something, well they're just not worthy friends. Friends are supposed to be your friend weather or not you have green hair, three arms, or what. True friends see you as your personality, not how you look, what you wear, or anything like that. Damn! I have probably done a few things people in school wouldn't like and I've got loads of friends, and I mean real friends.
I have always been a kind of person that is really big on impression. so in some way, I care of what others think, especially on how I look. I am a little more comfortable on my personality, as I am proud of the inner character I am or what have you. But i have become very subconscious on taking good care of myself and what I look like. That really is important to me.
I agree with poster 27.
I don't give a damn what others think of me. If they like me that's fine if not then that's fine as well. I'm not going to lose sleep over it, that's for damn sure I tell ya that much. I'm not here to impress anyone.
I care too much about others and their happiness. I care so much it hurts. I know people that doesn't, and I think it's really insensetive, so I do different. It's frustrating. I try to please everyone the same and at once it's hard to do things. Usually if they let me sort it out, I'll try to do it. If it's a thing especially for them, I make sure it's totally their standards. If they still don't like it, I make it work, and them happy. If they are stuck up it makes it twice as hard, and we end up fighting.